Do you let your loved one influence your behavior or family decisions?
Asking for your child’s advice on minor issues is good for the deep bond. It builds the child’s confidence in decision making and makes them more likely to ask the parents for advice.
If the child is blocked from influencing the family, they will often retaliate by blocking the family from influencing their decisions and specifically choosing behaviors that the family would find objectionable.
The same thing occurs in romantic relationships. If one partner rarely lets the other have influence, the other partner will attempt to undermine those decisions and the bond is weakened.